If I waited to be motivated to do something, it would NEVER happen. Motivation isn’t something that ever shows up for me. That’s right, I am the epitome of unmotivated.
However, since I decided to embark on my journey to defeat depression, I have found that if I could create habits that will help me reach my goals, it wouldn’t matter if motivation showed up or not. I stopped waiting to be motivated and did what I had to anyway, no matter how I felt. It wasn’t easy, but I wanted to change my life and the only way to do that was to change was I was doing.
I’ve read books on motivation, wrote affirmations, listened to podcasts and audio books. It all sounded great; but I never became motivated. So, I began seeking other ways to get myself to do the things that needed to be done.
Think about it, do we ever really want to do laundry, do the dishes, pay bills, do our taxes…….. you get the point. For most of us, no we don’t want to do it, but know that we have to. So, I took that same theory, and just put it into every aspect of my life.
There were a few things that I noticed were holding me back, and I think them may be more universal than just me. Here they are.
Lack of belief in yourself:
To accomplish anything, you must believe in yourself. If you doubt your abilities or convince yourself that the negative voices in your head are right and you will never get what you want in life, your motivation will die. This happens to me often. I fix it by reading my list of affirmations that I’ve created to get me through the hard times. They remind me every single day that I can do it, that I deserve it and that it will happen.
This is a big killer. You know, those outside sources, aka people ,who love to ridicule everything everyone else tries to do. The people who are so miserable and rarely accomplish much themselves, that they have a need to put you down and dis your goals and dreams. Get away from them! Unfollow them! Kick them out of your life. No one needs this! Flock to the people who support you especially when you doubt yourself.
Patience is one of the hardest things to have when you’ve got big goals and dreams. We get so excited to see the end result that frustration sets in and our impatience kills our motivation. Stay true to your course and know that you will succeed.
Fear of Failure:
Most everyone has at one time or other been afraid of failing. This is the thing, everyone fails. Failure is terrifying to a lot of us. Do not let this fear be the reason your motivation dies. At the end of every failure is a lesson waiting to be learned. I’ve learned as I grow a little older and realize that my days are limited (don’t know why I had to wait to turn 50 to realize this), I would much rather look back and have tried something and failed, than to look back with regret and wonder would could have happened. That makes me so sad, that I’d rather fail than not have tried at all.
I know how hard it can be to get motivated and even harder to stay motivated. Heck, I’ve had days where I couldn’t even get out of bed, so I really know how hard it is. Just keep thinking of what the end result is that you desire; and decide that you don’t even need motivation to keep going. Decide that you will get there no matter how you feel about doing.
When quitting sometimes seems like the best option or the thought of not even starting, remember that it will only make you feel worse in the long run. If you have already made a few steps forward, don’t stay there; and definitely don’t go backwards. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off and keep on going. Think of how happy your future self will be!
Get out there and go after what you want!